Life Prescription Mind: Self Value
- constance holdip
- Mar 8, 2019
- 3 min read
Updated: Mar 15, 2020
I've been away from social media for about over a year and a half. I needed time to just be and to re-examine my life. In the time away from social media I used the time to spend with my grand children family and friends. The family had some real crisis that had to be dealt with immediately, like illness and the passing of love ones. In that context life became more thoughtful, reflective. The teaching in the life events that took place assisted me with fine tuning my life purpose. How am I going to execute my purpose more powerfully and how will I spend my remaining time on earth? Throughout the time of passing of my love ones and chronic illness in the family, I discovered a deeper level of self value.
This might appear to sound simplistic, but I'm a life coach, I wrote the book entitled 365 Days To Authenticity , and I have been a social worker for over 20 years. But yet there were missing pieces to my puzzle. My book is about a year of self care 12 months of taking time out for you.
But I'm afraid I talked a good game but in actuality my self value was wobbly and weak. Lack of strong boundaries, lack of believing in myself, and allowing pleasing others meaning more than the peace and serenity of living with personal boundaries.
The reason I knew I was off balance is due to the resentment of giving time, money and life energy to others, and feeling unappreciated. Which made them responsible for my well being, so not true.
I discovered that I believed in God with my whole heart, but I didn't believe in the person that he made me to be. The thought was humbling but true, and that's when the mind shift began.
So I began to eliminate the obvious, I am responsible for my own well being, because I am responsible for my reality, my life. Don't give and complain, that means money, time and energy. God loves a cheerful giver. Boundaries are healthy and necessary, it's okay to say no, or say let me get back to you. This is the truth that I love most of all. Believing in myself gives me the fuel to create and finish goals and manifest dreams. Believing in God gives me the wings, to go beyond my limited thinking and imagination.
This year and from this point forward I will be practicing a deeper level of self respect. The change has ruffled a few feathers in my life, and periodically guilt will try to drive me into behaving and bending to other's request. The attempt is to leave me feeling depleted, doubting and second guessing my worth and value. But with daily practice it gets better. The change has revolutionized my life! The peace has brought a level of deeper confidence and well being, other's respect is evident in the way they are respecting my time and efforts. But this is the greater thing whether you are respected by another person or not. Your validation is from your creator that's undeniable! You are here, you are important. Let not your reason for being be to seek validation from others! Who you believe you are is far more important than another's opinion of who they think you are.
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